Listen Before You Decide - Thursday, 08/27/2026

Scripture Reading: Proverbs 18:2–17

Most of us know what it feels like to be in a conversation where the other person is technically quiet but clearly isn't listening. They are simply waiting for their turn to talk. We probably also know what it feels like to be that person.

Proverbs warns about answering before we have really heard. That is especially important during conflict, because once we think we know the other person's motives, we stop being curious. We tell ourselves, “I know why they did that,” and then respond not only to what happened but to the story we have built around it.

Listening does not mean automatically agreeing. It does not mean deciding that harmful behavior was acceptable. It simply means giving the other person enough room to explain their experience before we make our final judgment.

One phrase can change the entire direction of a difficult conversation: “Can you help me understand what you meant?” Curiosity lowers the temperature. It reminds both people that there may be more to the story than either one can see alone.

Reflection Question: In difficult conversations, do you listen to understand—or mainly listen for the opening to defend yourself?

Concrete Action Step: In one conversation today, ask a genuine follow-up question before offering your own opinion. Try: “Can you tell me more about that?”

Prayer:  God, make me a better listener. Help me stay curious long enough to understand before I assume, judge, or defend. Amen.